Other Redditors gave great advice, including from one girl who had a very similar experience. How do I ask him whether we’re boyfriends, or if he wants to be? Tl dr: My best friend and I have some not-so-platonic behavior. Ian’s pretty reserved, so it looks like I’m going to have to be the brave one here.
But I feel like if we’re going to live together, I should finally figure out whether we’re boyfriends. I’m graduating college this year (he’s staying to get a higher degree) and I realized it’s the first time I can decide where to live, and I also realized that where I want to live is with him. He can make my whole day by texting me.Īs you can see, there are a lot of things that can be explained as things that regular straight best friends do, and other things that. He’s attractive and smart and funny and overall, probably my favorite person ever. Honestly, Ian could probably send me a turd that he found scientifically significant and I’d treasure it. It sounds dumb, literally receiving rocks and leaves in the mail, but you bet your ass I have a whole shelf devoted to that shit. He sends me samples of specimens from his research, like cool rocks or leaves. I found out from his friends that he talks about me a lot, which is a relief because I talk about him to my friends all the time. Like “I miss you,” “Something reminded me of you,” etc.
I was kind of floored, and asked him why. When he came back he told me he identified a new type of thing (I’m being vague, his major is weirdly specific).
Once he went on a research trip for college.We go on each other’s family vacations.He woke up a few minutes later and we looked at each other smiling, and then I said, “Gay.” And we both burst out laughing. I woke up before him and just thought about how nice this was, and how lucky I was. Not gonna lie my heart did embarrassing things the first time that happened. I’ve woken up with his arm around me before. At first when we slept over one of us would sleep on the floor or couch or something.Now we’re physical all the time-not sexually, but he’ll lean against me if we’re standing together, or put his arm around my shoulder. When we’re alone, he’ll move next to me and put his head on my shoulder. At first I noticed that he was uncomfortable when I’d touch him so I didn’t. Lately I’ve been wondering if Ian and I are more than just good friends at this point. I’m not on Ian’s level of attractiveness, but I’m pretty confident these days. Ian and I attend different colleges, but we talk everyday. We would hang out at each other’s houses doing homework and watching cartoons after school a lot.įlash forward to today. He seen every episode of Pokemon and Digimon AND Yu-Gi-Oh. Also, “too cool” my ass-Ian’s a fucking nerd, just like me. Yeah he was quiet, but that was only because he was kind of introverted, and he doesn’t like talking about himself. The whole time I’d known him I’d just assumed that he had a ton of great friends that he didn’t talk about. Eventually I decided that it was time to stop being afraid of Ian and try to be friends with him.Ībout a year after I really started hanging out with Ian, there was a revelatory moment where I realized that I was Ian’s best friend. Ian and I ended up seeing each other a lot. I assumed he was out of my friend league because he was really handsome-not ripped, just genetically blessed in the facial department-and seemed really smart and cool, so nerdy me assumed that he was super popular. Ian and I were in the same English class in high school. Reddit user ProbablyGay1 posted the following, and it is very, very cute.
But sometimes it can be staring at you right in the face.Ī guy who thought he was straight is starting to figure that out, realizing his best friend might actually be his boyfriend. Sometimes when you’re looking for love, it can be in the place where you least expect it.